On the question of whether you should call it quits...

Minsan nakakainis (as in nakaka frustrate to the nth level) lang sa pagiging single: Ikaw ang takbuhan ng mga kaibigan mong hindi na single at tatanungin ka if they should call it quits.

It's a loaded question. Regardless kung kilala ko yung other party or hindi, mahirap pa rin sagutin yang tanong na yan. (I guess kaya nga nagtatanong ka sa iba di ba?) Although to be honest, I am still bewildered (as in scratch-my-head-dumbfounded) when asked this question from friends even knowing my uh... aversion to directly answering questions about relationships.

Kasi ganito. In the first place, since sakin ka nagtanong siguro naman alam mo na (at malamang sa alamang), di ko naman lubusang kilala yung taong hihiwalayan mo di ba? (If you've been my friend for a long time, then you know what I mean.) Pano kung sagutin ko ng 'Oo' yan tapos ginawa mo naman at nagsisi ka? Eh di ano to dent on our friendship? FO na tayo ganun?

Kung sagutin ko naman ng 'No,' then someone better comes along. Sisisihin mo rin ba ko?

Ang sa akin lang, take responsibility for your actions. Don't pass the buck. Kung pwede pag usapan niyo, then pag usapan niyo yan. It's your relationship. Ano ba naman kami at sawsaw lang di ba? In the end kasi, kayo din magsasama. I believe naman that sometimes people can feel if something is at an end. Unless otherwise, manhid. If you think you can fix it, by all means fix it. Just remember that there are some things that are irreparably broken. Kung feel mo talaga (as in sure ka with conviction) na di na kayang ibalik kung ano man yung nawala, then let go. If there is anything I've learned for the past 3 years, minsan mas lalo tayong nasasaktan kapag pinipilit natin buohin ang mga bagay na bubog na lang ang natitira. Oo na, I get it. At least you tried. Pero I hope you did not waste precious time.

Tuloy minsan naiisip ko (minsan lang naman ha) "Why would they ask me that question knowing that my answer may change the course of something important in their life?" Minsan alam mo na ang sagot, natatakot ka lang kaya ka naghahanap ng ibang tao na magco confirm ng decision mo. I understand naman that it's a human thing. Parang di lang ako tao no? Di makatauhan. But seriously, sana kung mapilit mo man akong magbigay ng opinion, it agrees with whatever your heart (or mind) has decided. But know this, kahit malayo ako at kahit di ako laging nagsasalita, I am always willing to listen hangga't nakakarinig ako... pakikinggan kita. Kasi minsan alam ko di niyo naman talaga kelangan ng sagot. Kelangan niyo lang ng makikinig.

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*Tinagalog ko na po yan para sa mga nagrereklamo na lagi kong ini English. Mga buwisit. Panira ng moment hahaha! At oo na I plead guilty to redundancy ng ibang mga lines. Well, screw you :P*

"Love alters not with his brief hours and weeks, But bears it out even to the edge of doom. If this be error and upon me proved, I never writ, nor no man ever loved." - Sonnet XVI , William Shakespeare

*image credit: Mark Geyer*